Aggression Towards Parents
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Abuse of parents by their children, also known as child-to-parent violence (CPV) is a form of domestic violence, and is one of the most under-reported and under-researched subject areas in the field of psychology. Parents are quite often subject to levels of childhood aggression in excess of normal childhood aggressive outbursts, typically in the form of verbal or physical abuse. Parents feel a sense of shame and humiliation to have that problem, so they rarely seek help.
How to deal with difficult or aggressive behaviour from your child;
All children have moments when they lash out in anger by swearing, shouting, throwing or kicking objects. There are times when the aggression they show can seem particularly frightening and out of control, whether it’s to parents, other family members or outside the home.
How does it make the parent feel?
Parents often feel helpless and in despair about their children’s behaviour and unsure on the best approach to tackle this. It is not uncommon for parents to feel responsible for their child’s behaviour. We often hear the term I love my child but don’t like them at the moment when parents are in this situation and it is the behaviour they dislike not their child.
Some parents are ashamed to admit that they can't control their children's aggression and are reluctant to talk about it, especially if the aggression is directed at the parents. If you are facing a similar issue in your home, it may feel like you constantly have to walk on egg shells, not knowing what could trigger another outburst. You may be feeling isolated and unable to share this with anyone as you may fear being judged for your child’s behaviour.
It is important to seek support and advice as soon as you can so help can be put in place for your child and the rest of the family. Our family support workers can offer you advice and support if you are struggling with this issue or something similar.
We all feel angry sometimes, often when there’s a good reason. Uncontrolled anger can be harmful, but you can learn to manage it.
- What is anger?
- Why do I feel angry?
- How can anger affect me?
- Get help for anger